Science of dating and relationships
These studies, surveys, and experts can help us all figure out what works — and maybe even up our chances.With the caveats that some of these findings are difficult to generalize and none of this advice will help you meet your soulmate tomorrow, here are seven science-backed dating tips.After each four-minute speed date, participants filled out a survey letting the scientists know if they felt a connection, and whether they'd like a real date.Women, it turned out, were more selective about who they said they'd clicked with — but the men they did feel a connection with used appreciative ("That's awesome") and sympathetic ("That must be tough") language.Everyone in the dating game spends untold time, money, and emotional energy trying to find a nice person to chill with on the couch while you both actually watch Netflix — but somehow, most of us still feel like we're striking out constantly. That means thousands and thousands of study subjects have made all kinds of dating mistakes so that you and I don't have to. Luckily, because of the ubiquity of dating (and researchers' enduring fondness for studying all varieties of mating dances), we have a huge bounty of research to draw on.
First dates are definitely nerve-wracking, but that's doesn't mean you have to let anxiety get the better of you.And the data bears this out — Match, the dating website that also owns Tinder and Ok Cupid, surveyed its users and found that a great first date is a drink or two over the course of a couple of hours.It makes sense: Alcohol, as most of us know, lowers inhibitions.If you're the kind of insecure person that tends to withdraw behind a wall of jokes, that's fine too — it turns out humor is a great dating tactic. Turns out, the best friend was right: Just go for it.Curiously, the authors found that insecure people who were able to put a positive spin on things ended up being perceived as Every coming-of-age sitcom for the past... A study of messaging behavior in online dating from the University of California, Berkeley, found that waiting too long to reciprocate a message can backfire.